thejackal 46 Report post Posted October 29, 2008 My junior A coach passed away a couple of days ago. His son is on our team and our first game since his passing is tonight. For the guys who've been there, is there anything you wished you said/did to keep him motivated in hockey and in life? Also any general advice for funerals? ive never been to one and dont know what to expect. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Fire0nIce228 1 Report post Posted October 29, 2008 Just give him a handshake or a quick hug man to man and let him know that if he needs anything you will be available for him, thats about all you can do in a situation like that.Dont force him to go out with you to party or anything, he very may well just want to be left alone but in my experience all you can do is give your condolences and offer an ear or shoulder should he need it. Just make sure he knows he has people he can turn to. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
chippa13 1844 Report post Posted October 29, 2008 A condolences card to the family that is signed by the team is always a nice touch. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LkptTiger 1 Report post Posted October 29, 2008 For the guys who've been there, is there anything you wished you said/did to keep him motivated in hockey and in life?I can't believe I'm saying this - but hockey is totally irrelevant in a time like this. His heart probably isn't going to be in the game for awhile - and you really can't blame him. With time, he'll likely bounce back. Don't force the issue.Luckily, he's a hockey player. You and your teammates are all, quite literally, a family; for him and for each other. I would imagine, losing your coach, that your buddy isn't the only one having a hard time with this. You have to make sure that everyone - teammates, coaches, etc. - in and around that dressing room knows that you guys can act as one big support group for one another. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jason Harris 31 Report post Posted October 29, 2008 When my dad died, there were six of us ranging in age between 7 to 19, and I was 11 myself.When I think how each of my siblings handled the loss, the only advice I can give someone is to tell them not to hold it in. Just talk the pain out of themselves. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
thejackal 46 Report post Posted October 30, 2008 played hard tonight and got a 3-3 tie. his son showed up and got a sweet goal. we payed hommage to him before the game and taped a black band to our jerseys. thanks for all ur help guys, its a process. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jsmart 0 Report post Posted November 3, 2008 It's good to hear you guys are playing through...sounds like a nice touch with the black band...good luck to your team and the family! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
