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    See I said no flowers for the guys and then my fiancé, my fiancé's mother and my mom all looked at me and told me I was crazy and that we will be wearing flowers. I wasn't going to put up an argument over something so dumb as guys pinning a flower to their jacket not worth my time or effort.

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    Thats more or less why I stopped including my parents in anything at this point. Just give them little tidbits of information about what we did. "We just found a photographer, well talk to you soon, love ya mom bye!" No chance to ask the thousand questions she thinks I didn't cover.

    I'm not sure how far along you are with planning or where you're getting married but if you need any suggestions on anything let me know, we're almost finished at this point and just waiting on the date to get here and have been fortunate enough to lock up some really quality vendors.

    Smart. We are more or less done with all the big stuff/ important stuff. We are getting married october 3rd so now its just the little things. The thing that sent me over the edge was we went and did the flowers this passed weekend and we are saving a ton of money by only having people in the wedding wear them no extravagant center pieces or anything like that. So we booked a corsage for the mothers to wear and then my mom talked to my cousin and my cousin said "corsages are old school tell him you want a nosegay" To which I reply "WTF is a nosegay?" and apparently its a smaller bouquet than a bridesmaid bouquet. Now I personally do not care what my mom wears/ carries doesn't carry, but I know my fiancé won't like the idea. The other part that bothers me is this wasn't even talked about until after we booked them and if it was such a big deal then why was it not talked about prior to booking. Now the florist is my best friends mom and a simple phone call can change the order slightly however its getting my fiancé and mom both on board with the same idea thats the challenge.

    It's probably better that you aren't from the same family. :laugh:

    Seriously though, I've seen meddling family members make way too many weddings uncomfortable for the people getting married. My wife and I made virtually all of the arrangements for our wedding and had a very limited guest list. Doing that pissed off a lot of my family, but they were people that I rarely, if ever, saw or hung out with anyway. By limiting the number of people, it made it very easy to draw the line on who was or was not coming. The other thing that worked well for us was having almost all of the details in place before telling anyone. That way when they wanted to offer "suggestions", I could honestly tell them that it was already taken care of. One thing I would suggest considering is selecting a friend or family member to be the troubleshooter. Allow that person to handle any issues so that you can do your best to enjoy the day. Something will happen at some point during the day and having someone else deal with it, without bringing it to you, is a huge bonus in enjoying the event.

    haha thanks chad that made me laugh. Thanks for the tip on a troubleshooter. My fiancé and I are pretty go with the flow type of people myself more than her. I don't really care and don't get overly worked up about stuff. We have a relatively small guest list compared to other family weddings I have been to so that helps.

    Gents, you should start a "Wedding planning...for guys" thread. I could tell you some stuff.

    My wifey and I will celebrate our 18th anniversary in June. There are two things you need to remember:

    1. It's just one day. In the grand scheme of things, it doesn't really matter much.

    2. If mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy. I'm talking about your fiancée. Your mothers are your fathers' problems.

    Your Dad has been married to your Mom a long time. He gets it.

    I love that I can now relate to my Dad on an adult level and we can give each other advice. It's pretty awesome.

    3. Women are crazy. I hope you both picked a woman whose crazy is at a level you are comfortable with. (not that men don't have our quirks...but women are crazy)

    Smart.

    For some reason, the wedding is the "one day every little girl dreams about". I don't get it, but I'm a guy. Your mom and her mom are living vicariously through this experience. In some ways, you need to put your foot down; in others, just roll with the punches. Remember, it's just one day.

    The best parts of it will be realized YEARS later. You're starting to learn the art of compromise.

    Honestly, we don't even look at our wedding photos all that much. We got married in 1997, in the infancy of digital photography, and all of ours was negatives and prints. You want several "wallhanger" portraits because you'll be looking at them for the next 50+ years. My favorites were the one of just us, and one of both of our families. The rest don't matter. Even the ones with the wedding party. I was moderately (but not severely) inebriated at my brother's wedding and climbed on the roof of the reception hall with a DSLR and got a very cool group photo of everyone out on the lawn...it was a wallhanger. :)

    The very best weddings I have been to were the week-long parties where all your closest friends and the family members you like (ideally including your fathers) get together and hang out and explore the area. It's not like a weeklong bender, but liquid refreshments can be involved for those inclined. The wedding ends up being the cap for an amazing week. We did a float trip for my brother's bachelor party and then ran 3 more rivers over the next week, hit a rodeo, small town parade, and several picnics. Another friend's pre-wedding festivities included a float trip, a gun range, an overnight 4-wheeling trip, and more guns.

    The least memorable ones were the stuffy fancy ones with place settings and rigid reception schedules.

    Be yourselves. Have a wedding and reception that fits the two of you. This is not the time to pretend to play dress-up if you're not that kind of people. Or, if you are, do it.

    Oh yeah, and if you're not already living together, be VERY careful of how things are done the first week you cohabit. The side of the bed you sleep on and which way the toilet paper is rolled will be locked in stone for the next 50+ years. No, really.

    MThockeydad aint it the truth. Yes woman are crazy. It is really nice that my dad and I understand each other. I already told him to tell my mom to stop talking to my cousin about my wedding and just show up and enjoy it. And 30 years from now you won't remember the stuff you didn't like about it. I am very excited for pre wedding festivities. My brother and friends have planned exactly want I wanted for a bachelor party which is just a beach house with a BBQ. I want very low key nothing too crazy.

    Thanks everyone for the support. Its nice to have this.

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    Going through the same thing. Luckily my fiance' and I have the same tastes and have worked extremely well together so far. I've found so far that it's the families that tend to cause the most stress. (At one point we have nearly no friends coming because our parents wanted every friend they ever met coming.) Just remember it's your and your fiance's day. If you need any help or wanna vent more since I'm going through the same process, feel free to PM me. Sometimes it's easier to vent to someone other than your fiance' about their family. I found that one out the hard way.

    Thanks for that. Its really just my mom that is driving me nuts. She thinks my cousin knows everything there is to know about weddings and every time she talks to her she calls me and says "your cousin said..." I always respond with " Okay thanks I will put it in the suggestion box". Eventually I will get a phone call from my dad telling me to stop being an ass to her. Its frustrating because if I take the side of my mom my fiancé and I argue and she calls me a mommas boy and if I take the side of my fiancé my mom gets all pissed and then my dad calls me. At least my dad and I understand each other and I can talk to him like a normal person where I have to sometimes where kid gloves with my mom. If you need someone to chat with too feel free to send me a PM as well. BTW I grew up in Long Island and my fiancé is from the country in upstate NY so this is culture shock my mom is going to have to realize.

    Optimus as always thanks for contributing I guess

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    Finally got my RPD Teams out there last night. They felt great. It was the first time in over 10 years I played roller in rink and not on a tennis court. It is so much different than ice. I defiantly need to play around with the lacing the next time I play. The laces that came with them are defiantly way too long. I really cranked down on them causing some lace bite after the first hour or so to compensate for a softer boot than I'm used to. It also could have been the tape I used so the laces didn't drag. I will switch to the howies waxed I usually use. I also got a blister on the inside of each heel, but I think thats because it was so hot. My feet where so sweaty by the end of it. I didn't notice the rubbing untill after an hour or more of playing.

    Once I relearned how to stop it was great. The puck does not glide as nicely as on ice and they are obviously so much lighter that I had to adjust my shots for it. Can't wait for next thursday.

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    8D in supreme 190s and just bought 8.5 in RPD Team

    Just baked them yesterday I could not believe the wrap I got out of them. My first thought when pulling them out of the box was they are a very boxy skate. I wasn't worried because I have read about easy they are to mold, but I didn't think it would be that much. Pleasantly surprised. Can't wait to use them.

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    just received my RPD Team skates in the mail. Unfortunately I won't be able to use them till the spring time when the snow melts and when one of the local ice rinks turns into a roller hockey rink. I haven't played inline hockey since Mission was sizing their skates in US sizes. Heres to hoping my parents didn't get rid of all my roller pants. Big thanks to Justin for helping me with the size.

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    they didn't have that V panel, I've never seen that. the old ones had a white panel on the bottom, rear of the sock.

    PICTURE OF SOCKS

    *Not my pic

    is there a market for fake pro stock edge socks? Not that I care I paid the average price for them. They where still cheaper then retail edge socks too.

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    Those are really strange. Never seen that shape before, as far as seam placement.

    yeah not really sure my first pair of pro stock socks or anything for that matter. I remember when the edge stuff first came out the practice socks all had white going down the back of them in that V shape and maybe even a little lower.

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    Had to rush my dog to emergency animal hospital after my game on friday night. I was pretty sure she had kennel cough but my fiancé said she threw up 10 times while I was gone. She is doing fine now though with the antibiotics and seems better. She did cost me my MX3 stick though. I also sliced open my thumb sharpening skates yesterday. All in all a pretty great weekend.

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