Getting hitched..

[gman 0]

I cannot believe I missed all this fun! I am working nights so I am sleeping days this week. Congratulations badkitty. You are indeed very lucky to be marrying a gal who likes hockey. I do not have many suggestions but some that I try to live by. I can give a list in no particular order.

Never take for granted that your wife has agreed to spend the rest of her life with you.

Never go to bed angry.

It is okay to say you are sorry even if it isn't your fault.

You are a schmuck and she has to live with you:D :D

Do not ever, ever even consider bailing out on the relationship.

It will be hard at times but you cannot give up on it.

You are constantly developing your relationship and your frindship with the person you will spend the largest portion of your life with.

Do not let your relationship stagnate. Keep trying new things.

Include your wife in your fun and leisure time.

Good luck

[DEATHTRON 19]

My brother is getting married on the same day, I hope its good luck!

Zach

[fatwabbit 93]

another one bites the dust...

best of luck man... just make time for one another...

[hockeymom 2]

Hope no one throws rocks at me for this suggestion....

Get a pre-nup or very soon after you're married, a marriage contract.

Yep, I know we're not supposed to ever think this might end, and I know that's impossible for you to contemplate right now badkitty...not one person got into a marriage expecting they'd divorce....but statistics being what they are....

Rather than looking at it as a negative...look at it as a gift of love you are sending your future selves. If things unravel it is an emotionally turbulant and painful time (understatement), if you have already figured out how things will be split up there is way less pain, expense and fights.

Plus, you've figured out what's fair at a time when you're in love and looking out for each other...your "best selves" so to speak.

'sides, if you really have a "no-exit" clause (I always forget that one..lol) you'll never need to use it!

Oh, and get your wills updated!

Just call me a romantic!

[Patrick67 1]

Hockeysew: what a great post, right on the money.

Stay true, infidelity is on of the worst discoveries a person can ever have in his or her life.

It hurts more than you can imagine...

And keeping ones mouth shut, from time to time, is a big part of being married.

[Chadd 916]

“When two people are under the influence of the most violent, most insane, most delusive, and most transient of passions, they are required to swear that they will remain in that excited, abnormal, and exhausting condition continuously until deathâ€

George Bernard Shaw.

[hamstercaster 2]

:P First and foremost, make sure that you are marrying your best friend

Be prepared to WORK at a successful marriage.

We have been married for 19 years and a marriage is an ever evolving entity with constant change. You have to be able to roll with the changes that life throws at you.( I was gonna say roll with the punches but.... :D )

So many people talk about "what I want". You have to lose that mindset and focus on "what WE want"

Remember-Peaks and Valleys

You have to be willing to give more than you take.

You have to make sure you set aside time for the 2 of you as well as your own time. (Remember,this is what made you fall in love to start)

Remind her every once in a while that SHE is the most important and sexiest person in your life.

Learn when to speak but more importantly, learn when to shut up! (Critical at certain hormonal times-you'll figure it out)

If your pissed, take the time to chill out before you open your mouth and say something you wish you hadn't.

Have a joint bank account but also each one of you maintain your own "goodie account" AND BE HONEST TO EACH OTHER ABOUT IT!! (In talking with my peers that have gotten divorced-this and infidelity are the 2 things that will destroy a marriage quicker than anything.)

Bring her home a few Roses once in a while for no reason at all.

If you think about F@#king around on her, consider the point of is it worth losing what you have? (Probably not-its saved my ass and marriage)

If you think the grass is greener on the other side o' the fence remember, the same dog craps over there too......

Anybody involved in a long term relationship will wonder what being with someone else would be like-its human nature-Its what you do with those thoughts that counts!!

Make sure to have fun along the way

Getting married was one of the best things I have ever done

CONGRATS!!!!

Couldn't have said it better. Been married for almost 5 years now. There are bad days and you have to work through it. I've never been happier in life than the last 9 years of my life that we've been together. Marriage can work but you got to put the necessary efforts in to make her happy as much as she has to put the efforts in to make you happy. Communication is key in any relationship.

[Roach 0]

Just wanted to say congrats, man!

I'm hoping to follow suit next year.

[Elwood 0]

Congrats and Good Luck!

Its alot of hard work, and reaps many rewards.

Having kids is even harder, but even more rewarding.

1. Communicate

2. Learn To Listen

3. See #2 above

4. Set aside "me" time for both of you. (I play hockey and WoW, she has girls night out/Bunco) once or twice a month. In between we see movies/do stuff with the kids.

5. See #2 above

-Elwood

[BK 0]

Ok, I just got back from my honeymoon :)

The wedding went without a hitch and the honeymoon was great too.

We went to lake Chelan in Washington and just took it easy for a few days in a cabin off the lake. We played on our jetskis for a day and just relaxed in the water for the rest of the time..

It was good. I will post up some pitures when we get settled in. Thanks to everybody who gave me advice :)

[figgifumi_11 3]

Ok, I just got back from my honeymoon :)

The wedding went without a hitch and the honeymoon was great too.

We went to lake Chelan in Washington and just took it easy for a few days in a cabin off the lake. We played on our jetskis for a day and just relaxed in the water for the rest of the time..

It was good. I will post up some pitures when we get settled in. Thanks to everybody who gave me advice :)

Congrats and good luck!