Asking a girl to prom

[Buzz_LightBeer 970]

Always remember: "The servant waits, while the master baits..."

[mack 44]

Yeah that's not as catchy or truthful as "he who hesitates, masturbates."

[JR Boucicaut 3803]

Later on in the evening while we were away from everyone else I asked her if she was serious and she said something like "if you were to ask me I'd say yes but I know you hate dances and stuff". Well when she said I hate dances (they're not my favorite thing) it kinda killed the moment of me asking her seriously to prom.

Actually it should've been your best moment. You should've said, "Well, yeah, but going with you would make it all worth it." You gotta flip it on them!

[stevoc 0]

Lots of good advice here, but I say stay simple:

"Remember the other day when you said you would go to the prom with me if I asked you?" Still feel that way? (wait for response) If so... I would like to formally invite you to the prom...will you go with me?"

Don't forget to let us know how things turn out. :)

Good luck!!!!

[Fire0nIce228 1]

Wellllllll, after she said the stuff when we were talking about "if you asked me i would say yes" I tried to ask her in between classes but she was like "we gotta go we're gonna be late talk to me about it later" and i replied "but I was all ready to ask you now" and she says "ask me now?" and we left it with me saying "ahh your killing me" (jokingly) and then her friend tells me later in the day she was flippin out about going to prom with me cause shes excited, so I thought it was good enough and we were going. Well she calls me tonight and shes like "so what is it you were trying to ask me before 5th period" and I was like "I was trying to ask you to prom but you ran off" and that lead to her saying something like she mentioned to her mom that she MIGHT be going with me , and I said "Well I never got it out so I dont know if I should ask you now or in person" and shes like "talk to (this other girl) she'll tell you what to do" and I say its between me and her and I'd rather ask her in person but I dont know when she has time to let me get it all out to which she replies "you know my schedule"...so morale of this is I still have to officially ask her tomorrow in school sometime...oye.....but it sounds like shes going to say yes...I hope..

[Fire0nIce228 1]

One bad thing is when she called and I asked her whats up she said she was driving to the ex-bf's house for dinner....Which sucks...plus if she mentions something to him about prom he will flip out , which hopefully wont make her have seconds thoughts....but if that happens shits gonna hit the fan..He plays baseball for starters, and I've got an entire hockey team thats got my back, wont be pretty at all. The whole ex-bf thing sucks cause shes not over him , she goes to his house for dinner and stuff, talks on the phone with him too, etc...but he's an idiot and does stupid shit and lies all the time..but she takes him back and forgives him everytime

[McCabe24 0]

this is some dramatic i say, but I'm not one to talk cause i am in a pretty similar situation now, dunno whether i have been dumped into the friends pile or not and our school is having a dance on wednesday. As for you i would have probably not said you were asking right before you did and should have straight up asked when you saw her first thing today. Also what's the deal with having to fight her ex if he finds out about you, her and the prom, he some kind of psycho or something?

[Fire0nIce228 1]

I didnt say "i'm going to ask you to prom now" see what happend as i went in late and she had sent me a text sayin "are you comin in to school" and I said "i'll come in just to see you" (cheesy, but cute i hope?) and so when I get there an see her shes like"you came just to see me" and I said something like "yea and I had to come so now I can ask you to prom" and thats when she said she had to go or she'd be late and all that jazz.

Her ex-bf was VERY controlling/protective when they were together. He didnt like the fact that me and her talked, and she never told him that we talked on the phone every night for the entire summer until after they broke up in August, so he really doesnt like me. The fact that he's trying to get her back, and they're not over eachother etc. is crap for me. If he get pissed and changes her mind for her...

[McCabe24 0]

oh ok, at least it wasn't like direct saying you were going to ask her, more of a joking around thing then

[asdfa 0]

wow, it sounds like she's trying to avoid the topic.

i'm anything but an expert, but maybe you should just pop over to her house with some flowers and ask her, and unless she's in the shower/overseas, i don't know if she'll be able to avoid it

[Aussie Joe 0]

Go over there do the usual shite you guys do when hanging out.....then don't think.....just ask her. The worst thing you can do is think about it too much then the nerves start and you are proper rooted my friend.

If she says No take it like a man and still be there for her. You never know If she says No but has an idea of you as something more because you asked you might be in with a chance.

Never show jelousy of the ex BF otherwise you will screw yourself. Im so glad we don't have Prom's etc in Australia. Man I hated that dancing shite in H school too! lol.

Think short and long term gain with this girl, if shes worth it she will eventually say yes.

[wwmoon85 0]

One bad thing is when she called and I asked her whats up she said she was driving to the ex-bf's house for dinner....Which sucks...plus if she mentions something to him about prom he will flip out , which hopefully wont make her have seconds thoughts....but if that happens shits gonna hit the fan..He plays baseball for starters, and I've got an entire hockey team thats got my back, wont be pretty at all. The whole ex-bf thing sucks cause shes not over him , she goes to his house for dinner and stuff, talks on the phone with him too, etc...but he's an idiot and does stupid shit and lies all the time..but she takes him back and forgives him everytime

Girls ALWAYS go for the bad boy/jerk type, even if they say all they want is a nice guy that would treat them well. Subconsiously, they're a hell of a lot more attracted to the bad boy type because they are the ones that emit that "alpha male" type aura. It gives the girl a sense of security. Plus those type of guys show a ton of confidence and etc. The guys that act like wusses are immediately thrown into the "friend" pile (unless you look like brad pitt or have a ton of money), girls want a boyfriend not a girlfriend. If you're gonna act like a wuss then you might as well try and pick up a dyke. Sounds harsh but its way it rolls. Back in the day i used to act all wussy and throw compliments and all that to the ladies, which never works (unless you want another friend, that will score you affection, not attraction). This one girl in particular didnt have the slightest bit of interest towards me even though i did all that cutsy stuff you see in the movies..and all the guys she keeps going out with are huge assholes. Im not saying start act like an asshole, but dont be wussy. You don't have to believe me but i guarantee you you'll have better luck if you don't do all that cutsy stuff like compliments, gifts, etc, leave that for when you're actually in a deep relationship

[Fire0nIce228 1]

Well I officially asked her or whatever and she said yes, so we're going. Its not till like May though. I hear ya on the asshole thing..I 'm not complete dick but i dont say "oh you look nice" to her everyday either so..maybe i'm in the middle..idk, i need to get her to actually like me more seriously.

[tml_bte89 0]

Ok there was this one girl who I became really good friends with. During the summer we hung out a lot, we would go places and movies i even met her parents. I told her how I felt but nothing happened. And at the beginning of this year the worse possible thing happend, she got back with her ex-bf. Last year they broke up and he even made her cry and then he asked her out again but then later he even told me that he was high when he had asked her and that he already had another gf. When she found out she once again cried and came to me all sad and she said that he hated him and never wanted to see him again. I always knew she had never had stopped liking him. Theyve been together since November now. I feel like i lost my chance with her, were still good friends and talk alot but she told me that shes not "allowed" going places with me anymore cuz her bf would be jealous because he knows that i like her. So things really suck now. She never talks to me about him cuz she knows that that kills me but sometimes other people say it in front of us and she responds but all shyly. I hate those moments. I really dont wanna know what they do together but i always still end up finding out. I really hope not to ever run into them in public.

[fatwabbit 93]

pay her a compliment once in a while... it does make a girl's day if you do, even if they say that you are talking crap

[Aussie Joe 0]

tml_bte89 you need to not be so nice all the time. Show abit of a mean streak and the girls will respect you because they know you're not a total push over. When it comes to chasing girls you really need to make it so their attention is all just on you. If the ex makes a move on her you need to counteract with something better.

Its just like one on ones.... You need to have a seriously good dangle to get around the opposition and score.

You may very well have lost her but use this as a learning experience anyways. Learn to go for a girl like an attack dog.

[Kobe 0]

Dude, if she's not over her ex yet then don't expect your 'thing' to go very far. Remember again that this isn't the movies. Your charm isn't going to stop her attraction for her ex and magically jump into your arms. If she's thinking about her ex, going to his house for dinner, talking with him, hanging out with him, etc. then you're walking into a dead-end my friend. It might seem like she's the perfect girl for you now but you're just going to end up getting hurt.

Let's just say that she does end it permanently with her ex. Do you think she's going to just start up another serious relationship with you? No man, it doesn't work that way. You're just going to end up being the friend who she can cry to about her ex. You can find out for yourself but it's not going to end up the way that you want it to. It sucks I know but that's just the way it works with women.

EDIT: You know what, forget what I said above. I think it's kind of important to find these kind of things out for youself. It's best taught when you learn it from experience. Just keep what I said in mind though. You'll learn for the next hottie that gets your attention.

[mack 44]

This thread's still breathing? Is this the damn Oxygen network?

[Fire0nIce228 1]

This is the best thread ever! Hockey players can be sensitive and help eachother with non hockey problems once in awhile! Just dont let the word spread too far. Anyways,,they broke up in august but never completely stopped talking to eachother so they never got over eachother or whatever I guess. Before they brokeup I was the friend she cried to about him all the time, but she doesnt do that anymore cause she knows I dont like him, and dont like hearing about them and stuff, even though when she did talk to me about him she knew I had other feelings for her. I dont expect to whisk her off her feet or that woulda happened by now, but I'm just hoping that if I keep treating her as good as I can as friends and such then she'll realize that there are other boys out there who won't treat her like such shit all the time...I hope..might as well keep trying till the end of school, I did change highschools because of her and her saying that we would hookup a little bit after they brokeup, but it didnt happen that way. Live and Learn like you guys have been saying, although I'm trying not to regret the moving schools and such..

[Cornbroom_13 0]

jeesh kobe is a blotty fricken pimp i tell yeh :P he knows all the shiznixs

[Lightning 0]

Oh, Im so glad not to be in high school anymore! Just a word of advise, (if going to college) just have fun with your friends and wait till u get to college. All those little games go out the window mostly as there are more women around and they all arent running around taking BS to each other like in hs because its so much larger.

One question though, have you tried to see if she gets jealous if you date another girl. It may spark the fire, as girls always love what they cant have, especially some other girl's bf. And who knows you may forget all about her and find yourself in a better postion anyway!

You will learn there are other girls out there that are more intelligent, friendly, and better looking.

but like Kobe was saying, YOU LIVE AND YOU LEARN.

[JR Boucicaut 3803]

Dude, if she's not over her ex yet then don't expect your 'thing' to go very far. Remember again that this isn't the movies. Your charm isn't going to stop her attraction for her ex and magically jump into your arms. If she's thinking about her ex, going to his house for dinner, talking with him, hanging out with him, etc. then you're walking into a dead-end my friend. It might seem like she's the perfect girl for you now but you're just going to end up getting hurt.

Let's just say that she does end it permanently with her ex. Do you think she's going to just start up another serious relationship with you? No man, it doesn't work that way. You're just going to end up being the friend who she can cry to about her ex. You can find out for yourself but it's not going to end up the way that you want it to. It sucks I know but that's just the way it works with women.

EDIT: You know what, forget what I said above. I think it's kind of important to find these kind of things out for youself. It's best taught when you learn it from experience. Just keep what I said in mind though. You'll learn for the next hottie that gets your attention.

VERY TRUE!

A friend of mine really likes this guy - however he just got out of a 4-yr relationship in which he was engaged. You don't erase those feelings overnight. Needless to say, my friend is a mess right now...

[Fire0nIce228 1]

Lightning, yes, it seems to me that whenever I give her my attention and try to spend time with her and stuff she could care less, but as soon as I dont give her all my attention when I'm around her she starts asking questions and stuff. Today in school I went in late so I didnt see her except for one time all day and when I did I just said hi as I walked past, needless to say when I got home low and behold on the internet she starts asking why i barely looked at her and only said hi. To make it even better while I Was still driving home I got a call from her on my cell which I didnt answer and a voicemail saying to call her back and stuff. I didnt call back and of course she started asking why I didnt call her back either. Its like, I have no clue what she wants me to do or be and its hard for me to be one or the other.

[Cornbroom_13 0]

Yeah i kknow what you mean..Im in a very simular situation as that right now and man sometimes i just dont understand her..Its hard to explain..

[tml_bte89 0]

Lightning, yes, it seems to me that whenever I give her my attention and try to spend time with her and stuff she could care less, but as soon as I dont give her all my attention when I'm around her she starts asking questions and stuff. Today in school I went in late so I didnt see her except for one time all day and when I did I just said hi as I walked past, needless to say when I got home low and behold on the internet she starts asking why i barely looked at her and only said hi. To make it even better while I Was still driving home I got a call from her on my cell which I didnt answer and a voicemail saying to call her back and stuff. I didnt call back and of course she started asking why I didnt call her back either. Its like, I have no clue what she wants me to do or be and its hard for me to be one or the other.

i tried doing the ignoring game for a while and it seemed to work for a while. I went 3 days not talking with her and then eventually she wrote me this letter telling me why i wasnt talking and that she couldnt take it me not talking to her. But then like a week later she barely said a word.