Going Out for the First DATE Ever!

[Kovy_Ribs_Fedo 3]

Jesus, a thread for getting the nerve to ask her out and a thread for the first date. I hope you know that if you end up making out and start rounding 3rd that logging on here to make a thread about "i may be in a woman for the first time since birth!!11!" is going to be a mood-killer.

In not so long he's gonna ask you how to offer the ring.

[Koho is Dead 0]

YOU JUST MISSESD THE PERFECT OPPURTUNITY!!!!!!!!!!

You asked her out to late !!! If you had asked her out one week earlier, before Halloween! Then you could have taken her to a Haunted house or like a Haunted trail!

For one, that would be a very creative idea that she would give you props for plus she would probaly be all over you cause she's "scarred". And if she wasnt then you could be all over her cause your "cold".

Man you missed it

[Meathead 0]

Make sure she knows who's in charge.

[J-Shera 0]

You have to find out what she likes, some girls dont like guys who are to easy to get while some girls like guys who smother them with compliments and act head over heals. Being funny is allways a plus, make fun of her a bit, in a cute way. dont be to much of an ass, she needs to know your kidding. Pay for stuff, but dont go over the top, if you buy her to much, it will make you look like a show off.

[Koho is Dead 0]

You have to find out what she likes, some girls dont like guys who are to easy to get while some girls like guys who smother them with compliments and act head over heals. Being funny is allways a plus, make fun of her a bit, in a cute way. dont be to much of an ass, she needs to know your kidding. Pay for stuff, but dont go over the top, if you buy her to much, it will make you look like a show off.

Or desperate ;)

[mack 44]

Jesus, a thread for getting the nerve to ask her out and a thread for the first date.  I hope you know that if you end up making out and start rounding 3rd that logging on here to make a thread about "i may be in a woman for the first time since birth!!11!" is going to be a mood-killer.

In not so long he's gonna ask you how to offer the ring.

I'd be of no help because I was the proposee.

[Fletch 219]

Just be yourself and let the conversation come naturally.

Also, at the end of the date - HUG HER goodbye - DO NOT KISS HER. Sounds crazy I know but it works. Especially if you like this girl - she will respect you more in the long run for being a gentleman.

[LkptTiger 1]

Jesus, a thread for getting the nerve to ask her out and a thread for the first date.  I hope you know that if you end up making out and start rounding 3rd that logging on here to make a thread about "i may be in a woman for the first time since birth!!11!" is going to be a mood-killer.

In not so long he's gonna ask you how to offer the ring.

I'd be of no help because I was the proposee.

AH! Say it ain't so, mack.

[mack 44]

The OR household is a very progressive household.

[Jason Harris 31]

I have a different opinion than most who have posted. After a couple of dinner dates when the conversation just lurched, I began to like taking a woman to the movies because it gave us something to talk about afterward. It can be a good ice-breaker. I also wouldn't worry about holding her hands, kissing her during the movie, at her door, etc. If you had a good time, let her know so and tell her you hope you can do it again.

Some will tell you that you would be acting too nice, but I speak from experience that the girls who like Bad Boys are girls you don't want to date. You'll have highs, but that type of girl just takes too much effort. I realize you're young, so this is more advice for the future, but a good relationship will run smoothly, not with constant turmoil. Yet girls who like Bad Boys invariably have traumatic relationships.

[hamstercaster 2]

Movies, shooting pool, mini golf all this is good. You should arrange for dinner before or after at a nice quiet place where you can actually talk. Make her feel important by paying attention to what she tells you. Don't go talking about yourself all night. The bottom line is to pay attention to her, treat her right and she may let you take her out a second time. As for the goodnite kiss and all, go with the flow. It's one of those things that are somewhat inpredictable. I've seen it all. Kiss on the cheeks, hug, kiss on the lips, long kiss on the lips all the way up to rounding third base and getting home. Actually with my present wife of 5 years (9 years since our first date), we did it all on the firt date lol... and I'm still with her to this day.. so you never know... You'll know fast enough what she's expecting of you anyway. Just don't force things. All will happen in due time.

[blueliner27 12]

She has canceled the date due to the student council. But I will go out with her this friday.

Should I go watch Borat with her? :D

Or something more serious? :(

[blueliner27 12]

Just be yourself and let the conversation come naturally.

Also, at the end of the date - HUG HER goodbye - DO NOT KISS HER. Sounds crazy I know but it works. Especially if you like this girl - she will respect you more in the long run for being a gentleman.

thanks for the advice!!

[mack 44]

Damn, Stan, there are some things you're going to have to clue-in to do on your own. Isn't Borat rated "R"? I think it'd be lame having your mother buy you guys tickets to the movie to sneak you in.

[Langenbrunner15 0]

Don't worry about it if it goes to hell...girls are devils anyway.

[Dante2004 0]

She has canceled the date due to the student council. But I will go out with her this friday.

Should I go watch Borat with her? :D

Or something more serious? :(

Borat is probably not a good date movie. More of a "guy" movie...unless she has that type of personality.

Ice skating would be a great date...if she wasn't a hockey player. Teaching her how to skate is an easy way to "break the ice" with physical contact. And of course she would be impressed that you are "so good at skating".

Movies are a bad idea for a first date...or ever the first FEW dates. You spend a lot of money to sit next to the girl and thats it. You can't talk to her...which means to make no progress is getting to know her.

Dinner is a traditional idea...but can be pricey before you even know if she is worth it. Plus, if you find out you can't stand her, you are stuck at the table with her listening to her babble about stuff you could care less about.

But at the same time it presents many opportunities to "test her".

If her cell phone rings, does she answer it? If so, get up and leave

Does she order the most expensive thing on the meny? If so, get up and leave

Does she at least OFFER to pay for her meal? Don't let her, but it is a good sign if she at least OFFERS. That means she appreciates the dinner, your company and the fact that you have to WORK to earn the money you are spending to take her out.

You may be a little young for these rules...but I am firm beliver in "Leykis 101". If you don't know what I am talking about check out the Tom Leykis website

NSFW...by the way...

LEYKIS 101 RULES

1. NEVER DATE SINGLE MOTHERS

2. NEVER SPEND MORE THEN $40 DOLLARS ON A DATE

3. IF SHE DON'T BANG YOU BY THE 3RD DATE DUMP THAT BITCH

4. NO STAYING OVER AT HER HOUSE. JUST GET IN HER PANTIES THEN LEAVE

5. DON'T GET INVOLED WITH YOUR CO-WORKES

6. WOMEN LIKE MEN WHO ARE ASSHOLES

7. NEVER BUY A GIRL GIFTS JUST TO GET INTO HER PANTIES

8. IF A GIRL ANSWERS THE CELL PHONE IN THE MIDDLE OF DINNER GET UP AND WALK OUT.

9. ALWAYS WEAR A CONDOM NO MATTER IF SHE SAYS SHE IS ON BIRTH CONTROL

10. NO SEX AT YOUR HOUSE YOU DON'T WON'T HER COMING BY UNINVITED

If she fails the "tests"...Dump That B%$^#!

[LkptTiger 1]

As for the goodnite kiss and all, go with the flow.  It's one of those things that are somewhat inpredictable.  I've seen it all.  Kiss on the cheeks, hug, kiss on the lips, long kiss on the lips all the way up to rounding third base and getting home.  Actually with my present wife of 5 years (9 years since our first date), we did it all on the firt date lol... and I'm still with her to this day..

I didn't actually kiss my current girlfriend for about six weeks after we first began dating (which was about three months after we had met - we went to different schools). Waiting sucked, she was/is pretty reserved - the "good girl" - but I really liked her, so I wanted to be respectful. We've now been dating for a bit over two years (she's been throwing the "M" word around a bit...kinda weird). It all depends on the guy, the girl and what you want out of it - if you want a 'fling,' go for it, but if you're looking for something slightly more meaningful, you might want to wait a little while. Then again, Hamster scored the first night, so I guess that could go either way...

[hockeysew 0]

:P Oh Boy-into the dating world eh??

Your Hosed!!!

Just Kidding-enjoy it!!

1-Be respectful. (Both her and her parents)

2-Treat her as if she is the most important person in the world.

3-Let her know that you are glad she chose to share time with you.

4-Let things take their natural course. (When you hit college this includes Beer)

5-Make sure you do something fun, if you both have a good time then it was a good date.

Try to find out a little in advance what interests her, then do something along that line.

Kind of a fine line to walk-If you go all mushy and cater entirely to you she will think you are a pushover (Pussy)

If you are aloof and have a whatever attitude she will think you are a Dick.(That attitude usually works better at parties and bars anyway)

I would give it a few dates to see where the relationship is heading before you "Test" her!

Relax-be yourself and have fun with it

[hockeymom 2]

Just be REAL - whatever your real is. If you try to be someone else, she'll pick up on it - she may not be able to put her finger on it, but she'll know something is "out". And wannabe bad boys just look like jerks.

Dating is about discovering another person and if you want to spend more time with them. It is also about discovering yourself and who you are. I know it is easy to say, but... don't sweat it, just enjoy it.

Once upon a time I was getting a take-out coffee in a Tim Hortons on the way home after a late client meeting. I dropped money on the floor and a man handed it to me and asked if I would have my coffee with him. Normally it would be "thanks and bye", with undertones of "are you nuts?". He was so obviously shy and nervous and had enough balls to be asking in spite of all of that, that I was charmed and disarmed by him and curious enough to want to learn more about him and what made him tick ... so I agreed. We talked for hours that night about everything and anything. Nah, we didn't get married and live happily ever after... but it was a fun 6 months that I still smile about.

The point - the only point - is that the sexiest, most intriguing, compelling and interesting people are the ones who know who they are (even when what they know is that they don't know - if that makes any sense) and are comfortable in their own skin... "warts and all"

[Stampeder 2]

As for the goodnite kiss and all, go with the flow.  It's one of those things that are somewhat inpredictable.  I've seen it all.  Kiss on the cheeks, hug, kiss on the lips, long kiss on the lips all the way up to rounding third base and getting home.  Actually with my present wife of 5 years (9 years since our first date), we did it all on the firt date lol... and I'm still with her to this day..

I didn't actually kiss my current girlfriend for about six weeks after we first began dating (which was about three months after we had met - we went to different schools). Waiting sucked, she was/is pretty reserved - the "good girl" - but I really liked her, so I wanted to be respectful. We've now been dating for a bit over two years (she's been throwing the "M" word around a bit...kinda weird). It all depends on the guy, the girl and what you want out of it - if you want a 'fling,' go for it, but if you're looking for something slightly more meaningful, you might want to wait a little while. Then again, Hamster scored the first night, so I guess that could go either way...

6 weeks? Eeeek. Tell me you're still not waiting for sex.

[LkptTiger 1]

No (I had to wait a pretty long time for that, too), but even if I was, I really don't think it would be THAT big a deal. I enjoy spending time with her - whether we are or are not...well...you know...uh..."being intimate." She's my best friend.

I won't lie - I wanted to drill her the night I met her, BUT, I really, really, really liked her and wanted to make sure that everything was right.

[mack 44]

I had those same urges the first night I met Mrs. Luckiest Woman In The World but I don't know if I could have gone six weeks without even a kiss. Did you stain any of your pants blue with the Papa Smurfs you had to be sporting?

[Koho is Dead 0]

Just be REAL - whatever your real is. If you try to be someone else, she'll pick up on it - she may not be able to put her finger on it, but she'll know something is "out". And wannabe bad boys just look like jerks.

Dating is about discovering another person and if you want to spend more time with them. It is also about discovering yourself and who you are. I know it is easy to say, but... don't sweat it, just enjoy it.

Once upon a time I was getting a take-out coffee in a Tim Hortons on the way home after a late client meeting. I dropped money on the floor and a man handed it to me and asked if I would have my coffee with him. Normally it would be "thanks and bye", with undertones of "are you nuts?". He was so obviously shy and nervous and had enough balls to be asking in spite of all of that, that I was charmed and disarmed by him and curious enough to want to learn more about him and what made him tick ... so I agreed. We talked for hours that night about everything and anything. Nah, we didn't get married and live happily ever after... but it was a fun 6 months that I still smile about.

The point - the only point - is that the sexiest, most intriguing, compelling and interesting people are the ones who know who they are (even when what they know is that they don't know - if that makes any sense) and are comfortable in their own skin... "warts and all"

Like somethin outa a book. Maybe we should listen to hockeymom and LChockey.

[Miike 1]

Just be REAL - whatever your real is.  If you try to be someone else, she'll pick up on it - she may not be able to put her finger on it, but she'll know something is "out".  And wannabe bad boys just look like jerks.

Dating is about discovering another person and if you want to spend more time with them.  It is also about discovering yourself and who you are.  I know it is easy to say, but... don't sweat it, just enjoy it. 

Once upon a time I was getting a take-out coffee in a Tim Hortons on the way home after a late client meeting.  I dropped money on the floor and a man handed it to me and asked if I would have my coffee with him.  Normally it would be "thanks and bye", with undertones of "are you nuts?". He was so obviously shy and nervous and had enough balls to be asking in spite of all of that, that I was charmed and disarmed by him and curious enough to want to learn more about him and what made him tick ...  so I agreed.  We talked for hours that night about everything and anything.  Nah, we didn't get married and live happily ever after... but it was a fun 6 months that I still smile about.

The point - the only point - is that the sexiest, most intriguing, compelling and interesting people are the ones who know who they are (even when what they know is that they don't know - if that makes any sense) and are comfortable in their own skin... "warts and all"

Like somethin outa a book. Maybe we should listen to hockeymom and LChockey.

hockeymom yes, lchockey... no.

[KYHockey3 0]

Like somethin outa a book. Maybe we should listen to hockeymom and LChockey.

thats the 1st time anyones ever said that!!

we just know whats goin on because we are women, and know what a girl wants.