Dealing with moron team mates

[kovyperron5727 0]

The worst that ever happen to me is when I was telling the guys about how I scored with this girl. Just the typical lockerroom stuff, everyone talking about who/what they've done with women at our school(my high school team).. Well, turns out we had a little nark on the team who decided to go tell her what I said about her and the next day my phone just blew up with angry texts and voicemails from her. Even worse is that me and that girl were friends too. She hates me still even over a year later. Unfortunately some people dont understand whats said in the room stays in the room

Same guy who dropped another great one last night...

"Man I'm sick of all these homeless people, they need to go out and get jobs. They are just lazy thats all."

Serious dumkopf, I'm thinking it maybe time to thin the heard.

This dude on your team sounds like the Aussie version of Rush Limbaugh.

[Chadd 916]

Unfortunately some people dont understand whats said in the room stays in the room

And some people don't know when to keep their mouth shut.

[chk hrd 164]

Unfortunately some people dont understand whats said in the room stays in the room

And some people don't know when to keep their mouth shut.

and some people haven't learned that if you plan on saying something make sure you are not afraid to defend it or take the fallout from it.

[eric42434224 1]

Very true. One must realize that the "locker room code of silence" is not a rule that everyone will subscribe too. You should never say anything that you cant handle coming back and biting you.

[usahockey22 0]

The worst that ever happen to me is when I was telling the guys about how I scored with this girl. Just the typical lockerroom stuff, everyone talking about who/what they've done with women at our school(my high school team).. Well, turns out we had a little nark on the team who decided to go tell her what I said about her and the next day my phone just blew up with angry texts and voicemails from her. Even worse is that me and that girl were friends too. She hates me still even over a year later. Unfortunately some people dont understand whats said in the room stays in the room

Did justice prevail, Mystery Alaska style? :D

And some people don't know when to keep their mouth shut.

That's one of the main things you're supposed to learn in high school...sounds like he learned it well.

[ktang 34]

I kind of see opportunities for discussion when these things come up in the locker room... but that's because of my personality type.

So I will talk with the other guy to see where he formed his opinions, and give him my observations and opinions, in a friendly sort of way (I'm definitely a confronter).

Who knows, maybe I'm the one who is wrong or brainwashed by the liberal / right-wing / populist / overly politically correct media etc.

[kovyperron5727 0]

Unfortunately some people dont understand whats said in the room stays in the room

And some people don't know when to keep their mouth shut.

and some people haven't learned that if you plan on saying something make sure you are not afraid to defend it or take the fallout from it.

I did buddy, it sucks because I lost a friend. However though, I still stand by my statement of what is said in the lockerroom stays in the lockeroom.

[chippa13 1844]

Shocking that a girl would be upset that you told a room full of guys that you tagged her. Sooner or later shit leaks out of the room, whether by a misguided joke or a drunken slip up. Rule 1: Don't say anything that can't be repeated.

[chk hrd 164]

I kind of see opportunities for discussion when these things come up in the locker room... but that's because of my personality type.

So I will talk with the other guy to see where he formed his opinions, and give him my observations and opinions, in a friendly sort of way (I'm definitely a confronter).

Who knows, maybe I'm the one who is wrong or brainwashed by the liberal / right-wing / populist / overly politically correct media etc.

I love discussing topics like politics, religion, ect with people. It's a great way to see what type of person they are and where they come from. The fanatics are always the ones who explode and think screaming will get thier point across better or faster and right wrong or indifferent they don't want to hear what you have to say. A good debate should be educational for everyone. Someone might say something controvertial, but they are entitled to thier point of view regardless of what anyone else thinks or how rediculous it is. If people can stay level headed they might even learn something.

[chippa13 1844]

Number 1 conversation rule with friends, never argue politics, religion, or music because everyone has their own opinion and you will never change anyone's mind.

[stock07 1]

Number 1 conversation rule with friends, never argue politics, religion, or music because everyone has their own opinion and you will never change anyone's mind.

Totally agree...Some people just cant handle someone elses opinion...

[goblue9280 33]

Even worse is that me and that girl were friends too.

Not trying to be too harsh on you, but she must not of been a very good friend if you let loose to a room full of buddies the details of your exploits. Best thing for you to take away from that experience is that you should never kiss and tell when it involves someone who you want to remain friends with if the relationship falls apart.

[Aussie Joe 0]

Yeah but lets be honest, a guy will tell his mates about it all in the locker room. She probably spilt the beans to her mates over coffee/bagels at the local StarBucks. My point is the only difference between the two different parties in this, is that the story got out that you blabbed. It's supposed to be uknown that the conversations happen. Well, at least in theory. ;)

[kovyperron5727 0]

Yeah but lets be honest, a guy will tell his mates about it all in the locker room. She probably spilt the beans to her mates over coffee/bagels at the local StarBucks. My point is the only difference between the two different parties in this, is that the story got out that you blabbed. It's supposed to be uknown that the conversations happen. Well, at least in theory. ;)

Exactly. Also I was 16 when this happened. What 16 yr old doesn't talk about that stuff in the room? IMO it's just respect to your teammate that you do not repeat what he says in the dressing room.

Even worse is that me and that girl were friends too.

Not trying to be too harsh on you, but she must not of been a very good friend if you let loose to a room full of buddies the details of your exploits. Best thing for you to take away from that experience is that you should never kiss and tell when it involves someone who you want to remain friends with if the relationship falls apart.

Actually she wasn't a close friend, so I didn't/don't really care that we aren't friends anymore. It's just that in my opinion that what I said should not have been repeated outside of the room. But, not every one follows by that code I guess

[goblue9280 33]

Actually she wasn't a close friend, so I didn't/don't really care that we aren't friends anymore. It's just that in my opinion that what I said should not have been repeated outside of the room. But, not every one follows by that code I guess

Wasn't trying to say the guy who narc'd on you isn't a d-bag. I've been in a locker room before, I've said plenty of things I probably shouldn't have... and girls do it too. Just trying to say that if it was a close friend who you started dating, you have to be extra careful of how you handle yourself if you want any shot at being friends when the relationship ends.

[kovyperron5727 0]

Actually she wasn't a close friend, so I didn't/don't really care that we aren't friends anymore. It's just that in my opinion that what I said should not have been repeated outside of the room. But, not every one follows by that code I guess

Just trying to say that if it was a close friend who you started dating, you have to be extra careful of how you handle yourself if you want any shot at being friends when the relationship ends.

Agreed.

[chippa13 1844]

I did buddy, it sucks because I lost a friend.

Actually she wasn't a close friend, so I didn't/don't really care that we aren't friends anymore.

Anyone else find these contradictory or is it just me?

[kovyperron5727 0]

I did buddy, it sucks because I lost a friend.

Actually she wasn't a close friend, so I didn't/don't really care that we aren't friends anymore.

Anyone else find these contradictory or is it just me?

Just you I think. I said it sucks I lost a friend, but I don't really care all that much.

[chippa13 1844]

If you don't care then it doesn't suck.

[kovyperron5727 0]

If you don't care then it doesn't suck.

It does a little bit, but certainly no big deal or the end of the world. Even if it does seem contradicting, then why does it matter?

[eric42434224 1]

Maybe some embarrasment about her finding out about the comments and someone hating you publically for over a year can be reasons it sucks too.

Sometimes people may not care too much that the person isnt a friend anymore, but drives them crazy when a person literally hates them.

[Leafsrule16 5]

Chances are if you talk about that in a hockey dressing room, its gonna spread. A gentleman doesnt kiss and tell, especially at risk of ruining a girls reputation to a group of about 20+ guys. True or not, no need to spread it. You get more if your quiet about it anyways.

[fieldofdreams 0]

Sometimes people may not care too much that the person isnt a friend anymore, but drives them crazy when a person literally hates them.

Doesn't seem to bother you too much...

(last word in T-Minus 5.... 4.... 3...)

[Drewhunz 3]

Actually, this time it's you. Warning added.

[dsjunior1388 81]

Number 1 conversation rule with friends, never argue politics, religion, or music because everyone has their own opinion and you will never change anyone's mind.

Totally agree...Some people just cant handle someone elses opinion...

Music? come on obviously everyone has their own tastes but thats not really that divisive of an issue to be lumped in with politics and religion.