Asking a girl to prom

[Fire0nIce228 1]

Okay, I need advice on how to ask a girl whos a really good friend of mine for many months to prom. Shes in 11th grade, a grade below me, and I've liked her since March and she knows it but we've never gone out or done anything remotely serious like a date. We've always just "hung out" as friends and such. For a month or so we were fighting pretty often and on "not talking" terms more than we were on talking terms, but now we've had a talk and worked out things and we both feel like friendship will work out this time and that we've fixed what was wrong. So we were just casually talking and she brought up prom, and i say "i'm not going, i wont have a date" and shes like "oh i'd go with you" and i wasnt sure if she was joking. Later on in the evening while we were away from everyone else I asked her if she was serious and she said something like "if you were to ask me I'd say yes but I know you hate dances and stuff". Well when she said I hate dances (they're not my favorite thing) it kinda killed the moment of me asking her seriously to prom. So now I'm wonderin if any of you guys have good ideas on how to ask her cutely or whatever, cause I do want to have a more serious relationship with her somehow. Maybe a story on how you asked your lady to prom "back in the day". Sorry , I know this is a hockey board and this might be a little on the "mush" side.

[wwmoon85 0]

Hmm...It may be a little too late to establish a more serious relationship with her since you guys are already in the "friend" state. Once a girl labels you as a friend its hard to reverse her feelings for you. I remember in high school i liked this one girl but no matter what i did I could not make her feel the same way, since she already felt a certain way about me. I remember I asked her to the prom by putting up the question on the electronic jumbo tron thing at a hockey game (ya ya i know, so corny). Anyway, she said yes and i did what i thought were some pretty romantic things, leading up to the night. Also she kept giving these signals that made me think that she liked me. SOO I thought things were going pretty good so on prom night i told her that i liked her (BIG MISTAKE) but she told me she still thought of me as a friend. Then afterwards she kept avoiding me. That hurt but thats life.

BUT...If you still want to go ahead and try then here's some advice. Don't pull any of that wussy stuff like telling her that you like her, and also remember that you CANNOT BUY a woman's love, such as buying her presents and flowers and etc. THey will just feel like they're are being manipulated and they hate that. Those type of things are good if she ALREADY feels something for you. Just have a lot of CONFIDENCE and be straight forward about it. THere's this book from this guy named David DeAngelo that touches on all this stuff, works like a charm. Read up on it for some advice.

[Kirsch 1]

It seem's like she already asked you. Just when your hanging out ask her if she want's to go.

[mickz 107]

If you don't like want to say something to her in person, leave a note in her locker. I do that with my gf. Make a scavenger hunt and make her go on it = P then at the end of hunt ask her in a very creative way. For example, writing the question on a cake = ) Your ideas only have to be creative, not expensive.

[EBondo 233]

For example, writing the question on a cake = )

WHAT HE SAID!!! Pull a Pedro, and "build her a cake" and a card, leave it at her door, and RUN

[mickz 107]

For example, writing the question on a cake = )

WHAT HE SAID!!! Pull a Pedro, and "build her a cake" and a card, leave it at her door, and RUN

Alright new plans:

Materials:

- Paper Bag

- Sharpie

- Dog doo

- Lighter

- A good pair of running shoes.

Instructions:

- Take the paper bag and CAREFULLY put the dog doo in the bag.

- Use the sharpie and write, "Will you go to the prom with me?"

- Light bag on fire

- Ring door bell/knock on door and run (with running shoes of course)

Aftermath:

- If she says yes, you've done your job.

- If she says no, tell her the person that she saw dashing away from her house wasn't you and then ask her when you have the conversation about it.

[Kobe 0]

Don't do anything that dramatic like writing on a cake or something dumb like that. This isn't a movie. Do what wwmoon85 said and just be straight up with her. The straight up approach shows her that you're confident in yourself and will take the brunt of the risk of rejection. I'm sorry to tell you this but it might already be too late as you're in the friend pool now. I know you're young and might want to 'learn on your own' but it's not possible to change a woman's view on a guy after it has already been set. Even if it does work out and you guys start dating, you'll probably end up being whipped as she already knows that you have a huge interest in her.

I'm not the love doctor or anything but it's the truth (from experience and other people before me). It's probably too late but I say that you ask another chick to this dance and see how she reacts. She will be pissed if she really likes you. It will make her want you more (if she wanted you in the first place). You can play it cool too by doing the old 'Why are you so mad? I thought we were just friends?' routine. Anyways, listen to my advice or don't but remember to not be a WUSS. Girls like masculinity just as guys like femininity. If you act like a wuss then she'll treat you like a wuss.

[Miserable 6]

I never had to ask anyone since I always took whoever I was dating at the time of the prom so I have no good stories.

I'm a little older then some but trust me when I say don't bother with stupid games. Chicks like to play them but don't like it when the tables are turned. Just ask her, she already said yes any way so you're set.

As for liking her, set up some time alone with her and just tell her how you feel. I know that it feels like you are going to die if she turns you down but I swear you'll live. If you are honest with her and tell her how you feel from the heart, there isn't any more that you can do. The worst that can happen is she tells you she's not interested and you'll still be friends. When you look back on it years from now you'll feel a lot worse having not told her how you felt then you will if you did and she turned you down.

Also, don't take this the wrong way but I dated my best friend for about 2 years and it was hell. She knew way too much about me and how to manipulate me. I had built the idea of a relationship with her up in my head for so long that the actual relationship was nowhere close to being as good as I hoped. I ended up cheating on her a lot because I couldn't end the relationship since I was worried that we wouldn't be friends anymore. I finally had enough of her one day and ended it, we haven't spoken in about 6 years and I actually miss her as a friend a little still. Live and learn I guess.

Good luck!

[Fire0nIce228 1]

Alrite, good advice is just be a man and ask her. I guess she already did sorta say yes anyways. She knows I like her, I've already prettymuch sat her down and told her and talked to her about it. Bad news is, she brokeup with her b/f of 1.5 years in august before school started, and she's not over him. They talk on the phone, hangout sometimes, and still fight a ton. She said something about they're waiting till March to see how they can be as just friends and if he can earn her trust. I know its only highschool and its so dramatic and stuff but thats how it is. Right when they brokeup me and her were hanging out and just "cuddling" a little bit but then she said it was too fast and stuff which lead to the fighting between us because she was the one initiating the crap. But, the whole not being over the ex-bf thing is killer. She has liked a few other guys or w/e but never dated them or anything from school. She probobly considers me a friend but she flirts like crazy with me still, girls wanting attention all the time I guess. Meh, I'll ask her.,

[Gongshow11 1]

just ask her man, ur a hockey player simple as that, if she dont say yes shes no good lol jk

dont be scared, she says no big deal, u dont like dances anyways, she says yes even better

[dietzie27 0]

Bad news is, she brokeup with her b/f of 1.5 years in august before school started, and she's not over him. They talk on the phone, hangout sometimes, and still fight a ton.

dude i hear you on the ex b/f thing. thats how my g/f was. we were good friends and she told me she didnt wanna date right away. so we hung out all summer, and i just complimented her alot, and was extremely nice to her. we got really close all of a sudden, and then on my b-day we hooked up.

wwmoon, i hate when the girl sends signals, you tell her how you feel, and she kinda looks at you like your from another galaxy.

[Langenbrunner15 0]

why are girls like that???I've liked this one girl for about a yr. now and iv done all i could to get her to like me.She wont even give me a chance.I guess once they do label you as a friend they wont go beyond that(sadness)

[wwmoon85 0]

She probobly considers me a friend but she flirts like crazy with me still, girls wanting attention all the time I guess.

Ya don't be so quick in thinkin she likes you just yet. In highschool there were soooo many girls that would send me mix signals, such as touchin up on me a lot, staring at me for long periods of time and then smiling when i look back, asking me what my next class is (even though she knows) and saying she'll walk with me there, and etc. But when it comes down to it most of them just see you as a friend. Girls are like that, it makes no sense but thats the way of the world.

wwmoon, i hate when the girl sends signals, you tell her how you feel, and she kinda looks at you like your from another galaxy.

Ya no kiddin, now i have a completely different way of approachin all that. Whenever they send all those signals, I just say something along the lines of, "Wow, why are you so obsessed with me? I know I'm one hell of a man (in a sarcastic tone), but you have to learn to control yourself in public, ok?" The reactions i get are great, most of the time they start flirting even more. You guys should try it sometime, you'll come off as confident, funny, and in control.

[Kobe 0]

A lot of girls flirt solely for the attention that it gives them. It makes them feel better about themselves knowing that guys are sexually interested in them. That's why you guys have to play it cool and have some self-control instead of slobbering over a girl and gushing about how much you like her. You have to make it seem like you're the challenge instead of her. Let her chase you instead of the other way around. Women are great but they're still just human beings and should not be put up on a pedestal. I might sound like I've read this all out of a book and it's because I did. I used to be a wussy man-bitch in high school too and got nowhere with girls. I read this book and tried those practices when I got to university and damn did it change everything. Confidence, funny, self-control = challenging. Women are naturally attracted to this. They don't even fully understand it themselves but it's the truth. You younger guys aren't going to get nowhere with girls if you follow what the movies tell you to do (i.e. tell them that you like them and can't stop thinking about them, buy them gifts, call them excessively, all that other dumb stuff).

Bottom line - stop being a woman, that's their job

[Steve 0]

Look dude, it's simple. Get a peice of paper and say 'Want to go to the prom with me? ; )' and make a two boxes to check 'Yes' or 'No'. Just like getting a girlfriend in 3rd grade...

It's even better if you use a pink crayon.

[stix04 0]

It the words of the great Eric Cartman, "Be a man Stan..."

[Cornbroom_13 0]

So...(if you dont mind my askin here) howd it go over dude? whatd she say and all ?

[Cavs019 710]

It the words of the great Eric Cartman, "Be a man Stan..."

Pretty much. Just balls up and ask her. Girls like confidence.

[PBRyan 0]

be yourself, be honest about how you feel and take 5 shots before you ask'r

[Eazy_b97 1]

Take a little advice from Ron Burgandy....... :)

[Stampeder 2]

The "massive" erection might not work though.

[ponty 0]

Simple is always good.

Hey what are you doing for the prom? Wanna go?

Simple and easy. Friend or no friend that should be just fine.

[NashvillePreds 1]

Okay, I need advice on how to ask a girl whos a really good friend of mine for many months to prom. Shes in 11th grade, a grade below me, and I've liked her since March and she knows it but we've never gone out or done anything remotely serious like a date. We've always just "hung out" as friends and such. For a month or so we were fighting pretty often and on "not talking" terms more than we were on talking terms, but now we've had a talk and worked out things and we both feel like friendship will work out this time and that we've fixed what was wrong. So we were just casually talking and she brought up prom, and i say "i'm not going, i wont have a date" and shes like "oh i'd go with you" and i wasnt sure if she was joking. Later on in the evening while we were away from everyone else I asked her if she was serious and she said something like "if you were to ask me I'd say yes but I know you hate dances and stuff". Well when she said I hate dances (they're not my favorite thing) it kinda killed the moment of me asking her seriously to prom. So now I'm wonderin if any of you guys have good ideas on how to ask her cutely or whatever, cause I do want to have a more serious relationship with her somehow. Maybe a story on how you asked your lady to prom "back in the day". Sorry , I know this is a hockey board and this might be a little on the "mush" side.

grow some balls and just go and do it.

[Kovy_Ribs_Fedo 3]

Hey Fireonice, do what you want but don't stress too much about that, there's a lot of chance you will not even remember those moments in 10 years...so don't be affraid.

[QandA 0]

Hey Fireonice, do what you want but don't stress too much about that, there's a lot of chance you will not even remember those moments in 10 years...so don't be affraid.

That's why they have a 10 year reunion. :)