how to make a girl friend?

[Patrick67 1]

So ask the girl. If she says 'yes', that's great. If she says 'no', it's not as bad as you think.

That sum's it up perfectly.

[sabre09923 0]

Oh come on Salming, you've already elaborated on your past exploits earlier in the thread... I'm sure he doesn't need any more advice than that ;)

[Deerok 3]

It's not rocket science...what makes it hard is having self confidence.

Girls want to see that you are fun, laid back, and stress free.

in other words:

Hanging out with you=a fun time and no headaches

Be ready to have a good time.

[blueliner27 12]

I asked her for prom today. I know it's early but I believe I did my best.

so what was the answer? great if it's a yes and at least you don't have to stay up thinking about what could of been if it was a no.

Very dubious situation here..... <_<

I think I'm finished, done, over!

To give everyone idea, I'd better write in detail.

So, it was yesterday I met her at msn. As everyone knows, I asked her for the prom. But she said she'll think about it. Okay, there is nothing wrong here yet.

Just now, my friend called me, asking for a quotes for a school news paper about the Terry Fox Run (it's an annual event held in Canada). After 20 minutes of discussion, we were just about to say 'good bye' to each other.

I felt that I need to discuss with him about the response I got since he was my best friend. Well, it wasn't totally necessary but I just want to get some sort of idea what kinda girl she is since he've known that girl since middle school.

So, I told him that I asked to go the prom with her and He said,

"What? She had a boyfriend, not long ago though. Maybe it's been... dunno, Oh, you might don't know this because she said not to tell anyone. Well anyways.. It's kinda interesting she said that....".

I was speechless.

So, My question is: what's in her mind? What the heck she thinks she's doing? Huh? I'm pissed, more than the new ugly Vancouver jersey.

Any girls? Hockeymom? Anyone? can explain this wtf situation?

[mack 44]

Anyone know every plot to Dawson's Creek to help weed out what that might mean? It's not written very clearly but I take it that she's keeping you on the back burner in case her relationship goes tits up.

[blueliner27 12]

Anyone know every plot to Dawson's Creek to help weed out what that might mean? It's not written very clearly but I take it that she's keeping you on the back burner in case her relationship goes tits up.

That's just a bull$hit, using me as a backup? Come on, I'm not a backup stick or like that! I think she's out of her mind Jesus.

[Deerok 3]

Do not overthink this man!

I can't emphasize this enough!

Next time you see her tell her "my offer is still open" and smile...that's it. Nothing more.

Don't call her (if you have her number), don't over analyse. Relax!

[shifter 0]

time to fly away. Always a hotter one out there =D

[mack 44]

I'd go with shifter because games aren't worth it. If it is what it sounds like, she's proven herself to be a waste to chase.

[shifter 0]

but the funny thing is the girl said maybe and accepted even though she has a boyfriend it might be 20% chance imo =D also don't always focus on girls they come to you when the time is right :lol: just be normal at school act smart and know your stuff and if a girl needs help with her work you help her =D

[mack 44]

If that's the case, that she'd leave some BF for him, then why would you stay with someone who you obviously can't trust? Then again, it is high-school and back then I was just like a hobo on a winter night looking for someplace warm to crawl inside.

[ktang 34]

Back in my day... high school romances lasted only a few weeks. So maybe our protagonist still has a chance.

But, the big thing is that blueliner27 overcame his fears and shyness, and asked her to the prom. That courage to overcome is better than fearlessness in the greater scheme of things.

[Remman 0]

"What? She had a boyfriend, not long ago though. Maybe it's been... dunno, Oh, you might don't know this because she said not to tell anyone. Well anyways.. It's kinda interesting she said that....".

Wonder why she is trying to hide it? Dating someone from another school, like Zach Morris dating a Valley girl...?

Atleast you overcame the fear, so in the future it won't be as bad... Don't think about it too much, just let things happen naturally...

And now you know you are on the backburner, cancel at the last second if she does say yes.

[Allsmokenopancake 0]

Squeeze her, don't tease her, never leave her

Get to her drop drop

Just try a little tenderness, ooh yeah yeah yeah

You got to know how to love her, man, you'll be surprised, man

You've got to squeeze her, don't tease her, never leave

You've got to hold her and rub her softly

Try a little tenderness, ooh yeah yeah yeah

You've got to rub her gentle man, all you gotta do, no no

You've got to love her, squeeze her, don't tease her

Gotta drop nah nah nah drop

Try a little tenderness, yeah, watch her groove

You've gotta to know what to do, man

Take this advice

Listen to Otis, his advise is sage

[shifter 0]

sick lyrics

[LkptTiger 1]

Oh come on Lkpt, I could go out and spit game and I've had my spikes hung up for 4 years.

I was trying to be humble. Humility aside, I'm going to have to say that I'm pretty confident in my own game. I think working at Abercrombie and Fitch AND a hockey shop has allowed me to stay pretty sharp - A&F is a great way to keep-up with girls my own age, while the shop job is AWESOME for working on developing some background with older women.

...and let's not even get into talking about college.

*for the record - I haven't cheated and don't plan to; I just happen to enjoy talking to (flirting with) good-looking girls. Not a crime, right?*

Blueliner, you're going to have to step-up here, kid. Just talk to her - give her the "You know, I've been hearing some things lately, and I need to know if there is any truth to any of this stuff..." thing. Throw it right out there. Just be calm and assertive (and do it IN PERSON). You're going to want to get an answer - if she runs circles, you should just give-up because 1) once a broad is working with that kind of logic, you're NEVER going to bring her back to reason, and 2) do you really have (emotional) interest in a girl who lies to you right from the get-go?

[mack 44]

That creeps me out only because anytime I've been dragged into an A&F shop it's filled with pre-teens and early teens.

[LkptTiger 1]

"abercrombie Kids is out the door, to the left and on the other side of the walkway."

Unfortunately, you're right - a lot of the girls who come into the store to shop are either a bit too young, taken, or just not fun to look at. Occasionally, though, we hit paydirt - and they usually come in twos/threes/more.

The majority of the flirting isn't even with the customers - it's with the female employees.

[Jason Harris 31]

Oh come on Salming, you've already elaborated on your past exploits earlier in the thread... I'm sure he doesn't need any more advice than that ;)

That's funny you say that, because I was going to write, "I probably already posted something a year ago, but I didn't spend the time to read the whole thread."

I remember making one post where I wanted to convey to the young lad that we all have to go through a lot of "no's" before finding the right "yes." Basically, the same point I made earlier today.

[LkptTiger 1]

I remember making one post where I wanted to convey to the young lad that we all have to go through a lot of "no's" before finding the right "yes."

That all depends on what you're looking for. Personally, I never looked for anything more than a "temporary yes" (I think you know where I'm going). When I met my girlfriend (she was one of my buddy's girlfriend's girlfriends), I got nothing more than conversation and the occasional "I think you're cute" look. Fortunately, I took it as a challenge (and, I admit, I was sorta intrigued by her), so I kept at it. I wasn't necessarily looking for a long-term girlfriend, but that's what I've got now.

I don't exactly know what it was about her that made me stick with her when she didn't give it up after a day or two, but I'm glad I did. She and I started dating about two months after we first met, and it was another year after that before I got what I was going after in the first place.

Sometimes you get lucky. She happens to be my first steady "girlfriend," and I'm the first guy she's really been involved with, period. Are we "right" for each other? I can't say for sure - but I know it's been three years already, and it's still getting better every single day. After all this time, I've yet to find a reason why we'd be "wrong" for one another, so that's a start.

[cause4alarm 7]

I asked her for prom today. I know it's early but I believe I did my best.

Holy shit. Are we going to have to wait a year to hear her response too? It's been so long that when I first read this post, I didn't even realize I already left a smart-ass remark last October.

But either way, congratulations and good luck.

Anyway, if you want to see how it's done as well as how it's not done (at least in the fictional world) I'd recommend this clip from Extras.

http://collectedthoughts.com/blog.aspx?cat...%20R.%20Gervais

It might take a moment to load but it's worth it.

[Aussie Joe 0]

I say if she's jerking you around then don't bother.

Best rule of sales "NEVER WASTE EVEN A MINUTE" If she's jerking you around there's doubts and if there's doubts the product (you) do no fit the customer's needs (her).

In saying all this limiting yourself to one girl at your age really should be sacrilege, even for Prom just try and get as many quality leads as possible and persue them until they are dead. This one you are on ATM is so close to dead from what you've told us its not worth it.

[blueliner27 12]

To sum up...

- She doesn't know that I know she has a boyfriend.

- She holds on me (I see she's more on fooling me).

In school(today)

- She never said 'hi' to me and simply ignored me.

Here is what I have decided to do.

- Stay back and watch what's going on

- Meanwhile, I will ask other girl (If she accept a proposal, I'll go with her)

Anyway, thanks for all inputs guys!

[mack 44]

You may want to wait on asking her though because it's really odd and somewhat creepy to ask this far in advance. It's pretty early for any winter ball dances, as well.

[Jarick 5]

I don't know about anyone else here, and my track record wasn't great as a teen, but high school "dating" seems more like quick flings that don't really go anywhere. I don't think I've had any success with flat out asking out a girl, it's more flirting, see if they even think about flirting back, and "hanging out" with them until it gets physical. If she's not flirting back at all, just move on. Formal dating is like a job interview. It's about having fun and enjoying each other's company.

With your situation, I'd probably 1) not rely on milestone social events like high school dances to further your love life, as it's really not related to dating and 2) forget the girl since she either has a boyfriend or doesn't seem interested in you.

What DOES work is going out with lots of friends and meeting or hanging out with lots of women. You keep meeting them, eventually one of them will find you attractive.