The Venting Spot

[5 Minute Major 1]

Lost Jamaal Charles in both of my Fantasy Teams. There goes my number 1 draft pick!

[starsfan71 9]

I have lost almost all motivation in school. Don't really know why either

[chippa13 1844]

If you want to get it back, just go down to your local McDonald's and watch the action behind the counter for a little while.

[starsfan71 9]

I know what you mean. I come from an area notorious for college burnouts. Just didn't think I was one of those people who would struggle as much as I have with it. Doesn't help when there is an enormous amount of pressure to succeed put on you as well.

[mirm 0]

I messed up my knee playing kickball last night. Seriously? I slipped on home plate & landed on my knee...HARD. It's still numb.

And I was worried about getting injured playing hockey.

I guess the good thing is there is no pick up this week, which forces me to take time off to heal. And I'll have a sweet bruise...

[Chadd 916]

I know what you mean. I come from an area notorious for college burnouts. Just didn't think I was one of those people who would struggle as much as I have with it. Doesn't help when there is an enormous amount of pressure to succeed put on you as well.

The only pressure is whatever you put on yourself. A doctor that had a C- average is still a doctor and the lawyer with a C- average is still a lawyer. Work on understanding the material and the rest will come. If you need help, look for tutoring resources. There should be plenty of them available on campus.

[BenderHockey 127]

my 2 cents:

know what you're getting into

be up front with the wife before anything goes down with the other chick

agreed. While she won't like what's going on, it might make things go a bit smoother down the road. Lying only makes things worse.

[sitzlejd 0]

If you do think it's going downhill and you don't have kids yet, I'd make sure you get out of there before something happens. She wouldn't be the first wife to "forget to take the pill" in hopes of saving a struggling marriage.

Not trying to sound like a jerk, but it happens.

[starsfan71 9]

Had a HUGE falling out with the parents last night. Looks like I'm paying for college now. Without a job and stressed out of my fucking mind already.

[chippa13 1844]

Apparently, paying child support based off of a $1.4 million salary isn't enough for some women. Not sure if the woman or the guy who served the papers is the bigger dirtbag in this one.

http://www.nypost.com/p/sports/more_sports/red_sox_starter_served_papers_by_TO8JRw3O72G6YW3bd6Ge5J?utm_source=SFnewyorkpost&utm_medium=SFnewyorkpost#ixzz1YYVkrv6A

[ktang 34]

I know what you mean. I come from an area notorious for college burnouts. Just didn't think I was one of those people who would struggle as much as I have with it. Doesn't help when there is an enormous amount of pressure to succeed put on you as well.

Did you do well in High School? If so, you might have been conditioned to expect success. Now that you're probably in classes with others who also all did well in High School, the level of competition will be much higher, and the profs / TAs will have higher standards. These things can make you drop out, or make you stronger and better in your field.

As Chadd says, you don't necessarily have to be a straight A student. Do your best, though, and pick up the As in your final years.

[bostonjuniorblackhawks 1]

Apparently, paying child support based off of a $1.4 million salary isn't enough for some women. Not sure if the woman or the guy who served the papers is the bigger dirtbag in this one.

http://www.nypost.co...t#ixzz1YYVkrv6A

If she actually digs some money out of this it would be almost as ridiculous as this story.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2034620/Fostering-children-Couple-rejected-husband-smoked-2-cigars-18-months.html

[noodle3872 40]

If she actually digs some money out of this it would be almost as ridiculous as this story.

http://www.dailymail...-18-months.html

If the child support laws in the USA are anything like in Canada where child support is calculated off of gross salary which he is supposed to declare each year by exchanging tax return info with the ex. The ex has every right to ask for an increase since his salary shot up. And he doesn't look good ducking paying the money retroactively. After all, child support is paid to ensure his child has a good quality of life too.

I paid child support for 13 years until my daughter came to live with me. When I began paying I was making $28K. Today I make $70K. I happily paid more when I made more. In this day and age doing the right thing is becoming a thing of the past. My daughter is now 18 years old and going to college out of town. I've done everything I can to ensure she is set-up to succeed at college and will continue to because it is the right thing to do.

To me the bottom line is this; if you don't want to be financially and emotionally obligated to a child then don't have sex! But if you do have a child and the relationship doesn't work out; do the right thing!!! There's already enough dead beats in this world!

Mike

[skeeter14 0]

If she actually digs some money out of this it would be almost as ridiculous as this story.

http://www.dailymail...-18-months.html

wow, I'm not even going to get started because I won't stop.

If the child support laws in the USA are anything like in Canada where child support is calculated off of gross salary which he is supposed to declare each year by exchanging tax return info with the ex. The ex has every right to ask for an increase since his salary shot up. And he doesn't look good ducking paying the money retroactively. After all, child support is paid to ensure his child has a good quality of life too.

I paid child support for 13 years until my daughter came to live with me. When I began paying I was making $28K. Today I make $70K. I happily paid more when I made more. In this day and age doing the right thing is becoming a thing of the past. My daughter is now 18 years old and going to college out of town. I've done everything I can to ensure she is set-up to succeed at college and will continue to because it is the right thing to do.

To me the bottom line is this; if you don't want to be financially and emotionally obligated to a child then don't have sex! But if you do have a child and the relationship doesn't work out; do the right thing!!! There's already enough dead beats in this world!

Mike

He's hardly a dead beat. He's been making the payments that the court assigned to him, and is still making them. If the court finds he should pay more, and he doesn't pay, then hes a deadbeat. Until then, He is being a responsible parent, and not a dead beat

[noodle3872 40]

I guess you missed this sentence....

“Honestly, what I’m trying to do is protect my daughter and act in her best interest, and he hasn’t been willing to cooperate,” Roberts said.

I can agree he's been paying but he could be providing more based on his salary earnings for past years. The fact that the ex didn't have a current address and he's not co-operating tells me he's not prepared to "do the right thing" as I see it. So in my opinion he is a deadbeat.

The money is for his child. Even never wants to see the child and even if the woman is the worst human being alive and he hates the sight and sound of her, he could be doing more to provide financially for the child.

There's certainly some facts missing that would provide a clearer picture but do you really think it's appropriate for him to pay support based on $1.4 million while making $7.75 million? I don't!

Edited September 21, 2011 by noodle3872

[chippa13 1844]

This guy made his payments based on a settlement when his salary was $1.4 million dollars. Knowing a little about how child support works I know that she was getting more than fair amount of money to raise her child. Let's be honest, is this mother's interest really "protecting" her child? Would the kid not have a roof, clothes, and food if the amount didn't change? Yes, I'm pretty sure the kid would be just fine. Mom is just looking to profit off of her meal ticket........errrr.........daughter.

Edited September 21, 2011 by chippa13

[Axxion89 32]

This guy made his payments based on a settlement when his salary was $1.4 million dollars. Knowing a little about how child support works I know that she was getting more than fair amount of money to raise her child. Let's be honest, is this mother's interest really "protecting" her child? Would the kid not have a roof, clothes, and food if the amount didn't change? Yes, I'm pretty sure the kid would be just fine. Mom is just looking to profit off of her meal ticket........errrr.........daughter.

This time x1000, if you can't provide for your kids with child support coming off a million dollar salary then you are just plain stupid or greedy, especially when people raise their kids with no child support or very little.

To contribute to the thread, car dealers can all burn, still waiting for my new (to me) car after 2 weeks because the original one they sold me had a broken transmission. Also had to pay an extra $5k for this one but its in much better shape and much less miles, hopefully this all finishes up for the best!

[sharks25 9]

I cant decide whether or not to ask a girl out... This isn't like its my first time either! It's so frustrating being this nervous!

Edited September 22, 2011 by sharks25

[Krev 86]

Better to do it and not wonder 'what if' years down the road.

[skeeter14 0]

I guess you missed this sentence....

“Honestly, what I’m trying to do is protect my daughter and act in her best interest, and he hasn’t been willing to cooperate,” Roberts said.

I can agree he's been paying but he could be providing more based on his salary earnings for past years. The fact that the ex didn't have a current address and he's not co-operating tells me he's not prepared to "do the right thing" as I see it. So in my opinion he is a deadbeat.

The money is for his child. Even never wants to see the child and even if the woman is the worst human being alive and he hates the sight and sound of her, he could be doing more to provide financially for the child.

There's certainly some facts missing that would provide a clearer picture but do you really think it's appropriate for him to pay support based on $1.4 million while making $7.75 million? I don't!

Well there is a difference between what the public views as right and wrong. As I understand it from my Fiancee, who has worked on a number of child support/custody cases at her last law firm (she now does corporate law work), In New York State (obviously may differ elsewhere), the way it works is say you meet your girlfriend as an 19-20 year old working at a retail job making minimum/above minimum wage, and you have a child together.

Things go bad, you split, and you come to a settlement based on your 25K-30K salary. You make your payments on this on time, everything is good. you then go on and create an incredible online business, and in turn start collecting 1-1.5mil a year. The way NYS looks at it, you are only responsible for maintaining the lifestyle of the child when you were together (ie, when you were making 20-30K a year).

Now obviously there is room to appeal for a higher amount, and I didn't miss the statement you said. Of course he's going to be difficult. He is abiding by the law and the courts ruling on what he has to pay. So of course the ex-gf is going to say hes not co-operating because he didn't just hand her a blind check. If she cant seem to get by on what she has been perfectly capable of for a while (until he started making money), maybe the child should live with him, and she should have visitation, just to keep the child's best interest. the flaw in the system though is with athletes, their contract value is constantly changing, (see: 7.5 to 1.5 to 1 mil). It puts an unfair burden on him and the courts because of the constant nature of the contract value fluctionation. so the kid gets accustomed to a life style of dad paying support on 1.5 mil, then next year paying on 1 mil. Doesn't seem fair to the kid.

on an unrelated note, the Red Sox Staff are IDIOTS for allowing this guy to serve him in the clubhouse on his start day. They have every right to deny him entry. His only "obligation to his client" is to attempt to serve the papers. but the Red Sox have been such a mess lately, this lapse in judgement doesn't surprise me.

Like Chippa said this is profit city, at the expense of an innocent child. Now who's the bad parent?

Edited September 22, 2011 by skeeter14

[5 Minute Major 1]

Better to do it and not wonder 'what if' years down the road.

Go for it bro! As the Great One said, "You miss 100% of the shots you don't take."

[coryroth24 15]

Go for it bro! As the Great One said, "You miss 100% of the shots you don't take."

Yea, I missed the net a few times myself...

[bostonjuniorblackhawks 1]

wow, I'm not even going to get started because I won't stop.

Just heard about this one today......shit's just getting out of hand

http://www.cigaraficionado.com/webfeatures/show/id/16059

[chippa13 1844]

That is pretty bad. Who does he think he is protecting, the people who might be walking by a cigar bar at a moment when the door happens to be open? You can't have a cigar bar with closed doors and windows but you can puff away on a cigarette in my face at any street corner you like.

[Chadd 916]

Actually, you can't smoke on the street corner in a lot of cities. Those areas are considered public property and a number of bans do not allow smoking in public.